Saturday, April 3, 2010

Taking a decision

I wrote about choices and the freedom to choose...

I have had too many things on my mind these past couple of weeks..... I have been falling into lapses of  decisive and indecisiveness..... at one point I am very sure what I want and the next morning I am not sure anymore... that the thing I had been so sure about earlier would be the right thing to do....

 The said thing on my mind is whether or not I should continue to work.... I have never worked anywhere before, then I went out and took a job, now I am not sure I want to work any more for a number of reasons and the No.1 reason being my children... I am not giving them my 100 %...
As a result my 5 yr old son is learning foul language and my 7 yr old daughter is behaving like a teenage rebel.... which was not the case 6 months ago when I was there for them 24x7..

Guess, I need to make a choice here.... priortize...

And so I have finally made a decison.... that nothing is more important than my kids, so I have decided to quit my job and be a stay at home mom.

I don't know how this is going to affect my life in general but I do know that it will make a profound difference in my kids lives... and that will make it all worthwhile...


  1. Seema, that is such a selfless decision to make. But, mothers always do put their children before themselves. Maybe there will be some reward in it for you... no, I'm sure there will be. You will be around for your children, and you will experience every moment with them. And you won't feel like it was a sacrifice for nothing, after all. It's a tough decision, but maybe it will be for the best. And, if not, and if you decide you want to go back to work, it's never too late, is it?


  2. Nevine:

    Thank you so much....... :)
    Yes, its never too late to go back to work or to do anything in your life for that matter. And I do not see it as a sacrifice, when I've brought my children into this world, it becomes a duty for me to take care of them... and raise them well, and if I am not able to achieve that then it's a purpose failed, isn't it? :)
    I wont say it was easy for me to take this decision, you are right it was very tough... it has caused me sleepless nights... but then, I am a firm believer... whatever happens.., happens for the best...


  3. Dear Seema,

    I realize we have to talk so much. Finally you have made the decision and I am glad. Letting go of something that was precious is indeed a little tug there but it's worth it, I suppose. There will be time for everything . . .

    Joy always,

  4. Dear Susan,

    I know, we have to talk... and am glad that you realized that...:))


  5. true dear, its not always necessary to be infront of a desk to achieve can work wonders around you...iam sure you are there :)

  6. It is such a selfless gesture on your part..but it is a good beginning..later on there will be always time to pick the job again.

  7. @ Vani: Thank's so much I am trying to be there:D

    @ Renu: Thank you for dropping by and thanks for your kind words... you are right.. there will always be time for that...:)

  8. Oh my mom did the same thing. Once she was confident we are in a secure environment.. she rejoined work. We used to call her on her office number.. we used to sit in her cabin.. we used to run around her office at times... Moms always take the right decisions.:)
    But one caution.. do let your kids know when they can understand it. It is necessary that they know how your decisions revolve around their well being.